Orders of Chivalry
"women are adopting "an à la carte approach to women's rights and civil equality."
While I agree with this, I think this article - interesting though it is - is somewhat off base. Granted, it's written by a woman.
But honestly; I DO have a problem with the fact that I have been rebuffed for opening a door for a woman and then rebuffed for NOT opening the door for a woman. Make up your mind!
No matter what you say, over the last 40 years, women have complained that chivalry is an insult - but then also complained that the lack of it is an affront.
My resonse to this article and to this issue is as such: I don't owe the opposing gender anything as I have not taken anything. If I open the door for you, I damn well expect you to do the same for me - not out of chivalry but out of humanitarian expectation. We are people. End of story.
If you aren't chivalrous to me, I refuse to be expected to be chivalrous to your rude ass.
I tend to rally against expectation - and this is no exception. Don't expect anything from me and if you do - you better be prepared to give what you get.
But beyond that, I think chivalry is an improper concept. It promotes the idea of kindness to one, but not the other. We should be gracious and kind to people because they are people - not just because they are a woman.
... unless it was always a way to try and get some pussy. huh... I never thought about it that way. In that light, "holding the door open" is a potent metaphor.
While I agree with this, I think this article - interesting though it is - is somewhat off base. Granted, it's written by a woman.
But honestly; I DO have a problem with the fact that I have been rebuffed for opening a door for a woman and then rebuffed for NOT opening the door for a woman. Make up your mind!
No matter what you say, over the last 40 years, women have complained that chivalry is an insult - but then also complained that the lack of it is an affront.
My resonse to this article and to this issue is as such: I don't owe the opposing gender anything as I have not taken anything. If I open the door for you, I damn well expect you to do the same for me - not out of chivalry but out of humanitarian expectation. We are people. End of story.
If you aren't chivalrous to me, I refuse to be expected to be chivalrous to your rude ass.
I tend to rally against expectation - and this is no exception. Don't expect anything from me and if you do - you better be prepared to give what you get.
But beyond that, I think chivalry is an improper concept. It promotes the idea of kindness to one, but not the other. We should be gracious and kind to people because they are people - not just because they are a woman.
... unless it was always a way to try and get some pussy. huh... I never thought about it that way. In that light, "holding the door open" is a potent metaphor.
posted by M@ at
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